Richard Edward Guilfoyle, a fiercely independent spirit, passed away peacefully after a short battle with cancer on July 18th, in a houseful of adoring family. He leaves behind a rich legacy of unconventional wisdom, laughter, and love.
Richard was a man of many vocations and interests - in his younger years, he excelled as a jazz trumpet player, picked grapes in the vineyards of Seneca Lake, drove a taxi, and worked as a reporter for the Finger Lakes Times newspaper. Later, he founded his own office furniture business—calling himself, with affection and humor, a “junkman.” But to those who knew him best, he was a philosopher, an intellectual and a deeply compassionate human being.
He held degrees in psychology and philosophy, and later in life returned to college where he earned a Master’s in English literature and met his wife, Erica. Learning, for Richard, was not a means to an end—it was a lifelong way of being. If you brought him a question or a problem, he would dive headfirst into books, articles, and conversations until he knew enough to guide, support, or challenge you. He loved to talk, especially about politics or how to best cook a “big hunk of meat,” and always sided with the underdog.
Richard was also an extraordinary cook. His generosity with food was legendary among his family and friends. He participated in barbecue competitions not just to win, but to share, feed, and celebrate with those he loved.
Despite his many intellectual pursuits, Richard was grounded in practice—exercise, yoga, Buddhism, and service to those who needed him. He treated his employees like family, gave without hesitation, and made himself available to anyone who needed him. He loved to travel, most recently to Ireland and a memorable trip to Mexico where he ate what he described as the “best taco of his life.”
He is predeceased by his parents, Laura and Richard Guilfoyle, his brothers David (Diane) and Joe Guilfoyle, and his nephew Tim Jones. He leaves behind his wife Erica, three children - Michael, Kelly and Erin, his favorite grandchild - Angelina, sisters Gail (Jack) Lyle, Melanie (Mark) Jones, and Theresa (Steve) Lahr, as well as a number of nieces and nephews, each of which had a special relationship with him. All who knew him were touched by his insight, his kindness, and his endlessly searching mind.
Richard was an enormous presence who lived deeply, thought freely, and gave wholly. He will be sorely missed not just for what he did, but for how he made those around him feel.
Per Richard’s wishes, no funeral services will be held. He didn’t want a “fuss.” A celebration of his life will be planned in the future. In lieu of flowers, please cook yourself the best steak of your life and share it with those you love most. The Dude Abides.
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